What drives people to harm those who have only been kind to them?

I have some answers, but the answers aren’t simple, because people’s motives are rarely just about the person they’re hurting.

Here are some common reasons this happens:

1. Projection and Internal Pain

Sometimes people carry unprocessed hurt, insecurity, or resentment from past experiences. Your kindness might feel threatening because it challenges their view of themselves or the world. They might project their own pain onto you.

2. Power Dynamics

Kindness can make someone feel indebted, vulnerable, or “less in control.” In unhealthy mindsets, hurting you can feel like regaining power or avoiding a sense of dependence.

3. Jealousy and Insecurity

compassion or stability can highlight someone’s own shortcomings or struggles. This can stir up envy, leading them to attack what they feel they can’t match or deserve.

4. Mistaken Interpretations

People can misinterpret kindness as manipulation, pity, or hidden motives — especially if they’ve been betrayed before. If they don’t trust easily, they may strike first to avoid perceived harm.

5. Patterns and Conditioning

If someone grew up in an environment where love or kindness was always followed by hurt, they might unconsciously repeat that pattern. Even genuine care can feel unsafe to them.

In short: Your kindness doesn’t cause their hurtful behavior — it exposes something unresolved in them.

Understanding this can help you see it’s not a reflection of your worth, but of their inner state.

Are you Flawless?

I recently authored a post on Facebook that elicited a broadly positive response and proved edifying for many readers. However, it also prompted curiosity among some, particularly with regard to my use of the term “flawless.”

When I say, “People will lie on you to create conflict. When you’re flawless, they can’t compete,” it aligns with Psalm 37:37 in this way:

Upright living attracts opposition. When your character is blameless and your actions are righteous, those who operate in jealousy, insecurity, or deceit may feel threatened. Unable to find true fault, they resort to lies and slander to create strife.

God promises peace in the end. Psalm 37 assures that despite temporary attacks, the upright person’s ultimate outcome is peace. False accusations might stir temporary trouble, but they cannot undo a life rooted in integrity.

Their conflict doesn’t change your standing with God. When you remain steadfast and continue walking in truth, the lies fall flat over time, and God’s vindication brings lasting peace—something your opponents can’t manufacture or compete with.

In short, Psalm 37:37 teaches that no matter how others scheme against you, the “end” (final result) for the person of integrity is peace, because God honors righteousness over slander.

You Are Right Where God Wants You

For each land the Lord has given you to work, He has always equipped you with the right shoes to walk that land. When you took your first steps in those shoes, they were stiff and uncomfortable. You had to break them in. 

Yet, with a little guidance from the Lord, you broke them in and soon you grew sure-footed. Before you knew it, you were running in those shoes. 

Today, you are here again. The Lord has a new promise land for you, and it’s time for a new pair of shoes,

“My child I have sent you to accomplish many different feats. With each one, is a different land. For the mountains, I gave you hiking boots that you may climb to the top and receive a new perspective. 

In the fields, I gave you work boots to break the hard ground. In the battlefield, I gave you combat boots to send the enemy to flight, and in the storms I gave you rain boots to weather your circumstances. 

I’ve always prepared you for the road you are to walk and now it is time that I do a new thing. It is time to receive new shoes, that will help you walk this road. So, do not be dismayed by the sudden discomfort you are feeling underneath your feet. I am equipping you with a new experience and adding onto you. 

For these shoes are a perfect fit and though you feel insecure at times, I am still right here beside you. I will give you the wisdom to walk in them, and to break them in. I will give you the strength to walk in them and when you take them off, I am here to comfort you. 

The road is straight, but the doors have opened up before you, so put your new shoes on and pick up your tools, for I have set you before My bride. So go my child, take what you have learned and step out in the splendor I have made you to be. My bride awaits, introductions are in order and I have much to tell her,”says the Lord. 

10 Words of Wisdom for Entrepreneurs of Faith!

1. God is not just invited—He reigns.

Christ is not your silent partner. He is Lord over your mission, your strategy, and your outcomes. True success begins at His feet, not your desk.

2. Your business is a pulpit.

Every transaction, every conversation, every policy you create is either echoing heaven or amplifying the world. You don’t just build profit—you build testimony.

3. Profit is a servant, not your master.

Wealth is a tool, not an identity. In the hands of the righteous, it becomes seed for eternal harvest. Let your gain be governed by God’s glory.

4. Excellence is worship.

Your branding, delivery, and systems should be soaked in the fear of the Lord. Sloppy work dishonors a holy God. Let everything carry the fragrance of reverence.

5. Integrity is non-negotiable.

In a world that cuts corners, your character will be your covenant with heaven. What you compromise to get, you’ll eventually lose. But what you build in truth, God sustains.

6. Don’t chase—be led.

The grind is not your God. The Spirit leads with wisdom, peace, and divine timing. Restlessness is not a fruit of the Spirit—discern the difference between ambition and anointing.

7. Steward hearts, not just outcomes.

Your employees and clients are eternal souls, not stepping stones. Build a business that ministers, not manipulates.

8. Resistance is a sign of calling.

Hell does not war against what does not threaten it. If warfare increases, so has your impact. Stay on the altar, not just on the agenda.

9. Rest is a weapon of trust.

Sabbath declares that your business runs on grace, not grind. Cease from labor to honor the Lord of the harvest—He multiplies what is surrendered.

10. Obedience is the true bottom line.

Heaven doesn’t measure by revenue, but by faithfulness. When you obey God in the unseen, He marks you in the eternal. Let Him say, “Well done,” not just “Well branded.”

Have No Fear With Me!

It’s okay to be afraid and not have all the answers, my child, as long as you hold my hands and step out in courage, knowing that I am by your side. I will fill you up where you are weak and I will grow your faith, where it lacks. For I will take the mustard seed you give to me and I will water it until it flourishes and becomes a strongly rooted tree. 

So do not be discouraged because you do not feel like a mighty spiritual giant. Just give me what you have, child, and step out with the seed that you do have. Step out with courage, though afraid, and I will cause your faith to grow. 

You do not have to be strong in yourself, only strong in me, only bold enough to step out. For when you do, you will walk on water, you will cast out mountains and tear down strongholds. But it starts with giving me the faith that you have. It begins with taking my hand and stepping out on the waters. Regardless of how you feel or what pictures you see, if you just keep your eyes on my truth, you will grow, and you will overcome the obstacles that are in your way. 

I will strengthen you and I will add onto you everything that you need. For everything that is of me, is created by my Word and not by what you can see with your natural eyes. What I create is from above and does not originate from human effort. So let go of your understanding and instead lean on mine. Lean on my laws, for where I am leading you, can only be reached by my laws and my rules. What faith is made out of is, is where my promises to you are manifested. 

What I do in your life, will come forth from my Words. When you look to me and choose to follow, even when you afraid, you will enter a new realm of blessing with every step that you take. You will never be alone because I will always be there by your side. So let us walk this road together, child and let us walk on water. Amen.